Ok..this topic will ignite controversy or perhaps anger within most women..but facts are facts and seldom are they brought to the spotlight due to the fear of retaliation or negative feedback..but here it goes.
For years psychologist, psychiatrists, and physicians have acknowledged that humans have innate likes and dislikes..after all each of us creates our own world. However, lets get to the topic of Women..because women tend to be complex beings. Men have, for centuries, tried to figure out what women want.. what do women look at in men that attracts them to men. The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) came out with findings in the early 90's regarding what women want in men. Other researchers have done similar studies and have come up to the same conclusions. In the early 1900's and 1950's this was done with less sophisticated methods but yet the conclusions were the same as well!
So what did these studies find? Well.. here is the shocker.. 92% of women have 3 types of men that they are attracted to : 1-The Cheater, 2- The Beater, & The Married Man. The study also showed that only 6% of women wanted the Good guy.. perhaps worst of all.. out of this 6% of women 4% were past their mid Forties!!!
* the other 2% of women studied did not complete the study either due to personal reasons or incomplete information submitted.
THE CHEATER
This man is one who is either in a relationship or single. This man is also known as 'A Player'...why do women love these men?? according to Dr. Drew this man is one who is flashy, exuberant, and cunning..often in position where he doesn't want to commit and only looks for self satisfaction. So why are women so inclined to catch this type of guy??? The answer is POWER..women feel that this is a tough man to settle down with..and as such they want to be 'The One' who finally trap him. The problem is that 98% of women are thinking the same toward this man..so if he has say 4 women..then all 4 are trying their best to settle down with him. This causes great problems, sooner or later, when all women confront each other...after all they 'want to fight for their man'.
Once a woman finds out of the other women and that he was cheating.. they want to dismiss his actions as an error and that he really feels sorry..so they forgive him over and over...
Women want power, we can see this throughout history when noble women slept with the enemy to steal secrets from them and then bring the secrets back to her King.
Women want power, we can see this throughout history when noble women slept with the enemy to steal secrets from them and then bring the secrets back to her King.
Recently Dr. Drew Pinsky, host of a popular radio show, marriage counselor, and UCLA professor spoke of the findings and claimed that these findings he finds daily in his profession.
THE BEATER
This type of man is most common.. this is the abuser...the one that has the caveman instincts. Try this - You can ask any woman you know if they like would ever get involved with a man that beats them.. you can be assured that at least 99% of the women will respond with a NO. However, go to your local women's shelter, talk to any psychologist or psychiatrist, or really begin looking in your neighborhood...and you will find these women everywhere!
Beaters are attractive to women because they want to change him and even if he beats her with simple small acts of kindness by the beater are magnified by women..for example..I'm sure you've heard this one.. a friend of a beated woman asks 'why are you with him' or 'why do you take that crap' the usually response from the victim is "well...he said he was sorry" or "i told him that if he does this again we are through".
In the mid 50's there was a movie, amongst many, that captured TV audiences everywhere because it brought to the spotlight this type of issue.. the movie was "The Taming of the Shrew".. in this movie you could see a young man who beat this wife and constantly bruised her or injured her but she kept coming back. This is similar to the "Stockholm Syndrome" where the captive protects and falls in love with the captor! Even though the Stockholm Syndrome applies for both men and women.. scientist say that women are far more susceptible to this syndrome than men.
Why do women like these men..well because it actually signifies The Protector. The testosterone levels inside the beater are high..and unconsciously women are attracted to this... this is what Dr's believe are Pheromones ..which is the scent humans used in the early days to attract a mate.
The Married Man
This one is related to The Cheater, because all married men who have an affair are cheaters, but not all cheaters are married men.
Don't tell me you haven't heard of this case! You see it every day in television..a woman falls in love with the perfect man..he is everything she has been looking for... as time goes by the relationship gets more serious..and as time goes by even more he finally confesses.. he ends up being married with kids. And of course, the woman says "but i had no clue he was married".. according to Dr Drew..this is a typical response from women. Dr Drew states that the women unconsciously was seeking this married man. The only reason why this man seemed perfect was because he was indeed perfect...perfectly married so women want to be the one who changed him and took him from his wife. After all..this is the ultimate sign of power. Other times, less often, women tend to go with men they KNOW are married.
More to come....stay tuned for more udpates!
